5 truths that’s helped me heal❤️

Hey teacups,

It’s been a minute since my last update. I took

some time out in the name of Self Care. 

While on my break, I’ve still been actively

promoting my page and when people ask me

about my blog, my favorite page to talk about is

my Green Tea column. 

I’m always excited to tell people that I promote

healing. Then one day someone stopped me &

asked “how do you get people to start their

healing process”. 

I had to stop & realize that, I can’t make people

do anything. I know this because when I was in

a dark space, no one could pull me out. 

Healing is something YOU have to want for

yourself. When you’re tired (and you’ll know

when you’re tired) you’ll want to vibrate

higher and stop being in that lower self. 

There are five truths that helped me and they continue to be the truths that keep me in my higher self. 

   

1.    It’s not other people’s job to love you. It’s yours. 

The moment you realize that no one owes you anything, the sooner you will stop letting the behaviors and actions of others affect you. It is so important that you learn to love yourself. I use to have a lot of insecurities. One day I wrote down everything I didn’t like about myself and I focused in on those things. Learn to embrace those very things you once hated about yourself.

2.    What you OWN is not who you are. 

Growing up, I used to think I didn’t have everything. I used to want all the expensive shoes & nice clothing. Looking back on what I lacked , that made me. So many of us have this materialistic value on things. Having expensive things don’t mean that you have everything & just because you don’t have expensive stuff doesn’t mean that you have nothing. 

3. You don’t have to wait for an apology to forgive. 

Some people will never understand the damage and hurt they cause other people. You’ll be waiting years and years for some people to finally come to their senses to have the decency to apologize. That’s years and years of hurt that you’ll be holding on to. You owe it to yourself to free yourself of other people’s burdens. Forgive them, for yourself. You can’t start healing wounds until you close them. 

4. Everything changes

Don’t get comfortable. Change is inevitable. This is a truth that I know well and I still have to work on. The moment you realize that some things in this world we can’t control the easier it will be to accept change. 

5. Some people are not for you.

This is one that many people have a hard time accepting. There are no exceptions on this truth. People can include lover, family, and friends. Surround yourself around people who match your energy. The ultimate goal is to disable the keys these toxic people have to your spiritual house. It’s a process, it won’t happen overnight. Take a break from people and pay attention to how your energy changes. 

I challenge you all to apply one of these truths into you life this week & notice the change. Until next time Teacup❤️✨

“Build a vision workshop”

Heyyy teacups,

I’m back with another update. I was debating on which column this would fall under. But I believe sweet tea would be perfect to showcase this event.

Everyone always say that Birmingham doesn’t have anything to offer, but you guys really missed out if you missed this event.

This weekend I got to attend a “Build a vision workshop” presented by Birmingham’s very own Maddhatter!

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Maddhatter

This was so cool because she is the first person I’ve ever interview for my blog.

This event was nothing short of spectacular.

Basically a group of ppl got together under one roof & designed vision boards. If you’re not familiar with what a vision board is, I’ve included a definition below.

“A vision board is a collage of images, pictures and affirmations of one’s dreams and desires, designed to serve as a source of inspiration and motivation, and to use the law of attraction to attain goals.

The room was filled with inspiration. Great vibes everywhere.

 

 

As if it couldn’t get any cooler, it did. Maddhatter used this event to showcase more than one talent in a single setting.

For example, at the event there was an amazing backdrop, made by Birmingham very own Jazmyne Williams. Be sure to check out her business page on Facebook at Jazy creations.

 

 

Also, the flyer for the event was made by Kirk Jordan. (the featured photo for this insert)

You wanna know what the most exciting part was for me? I was the guest speaker at this event. 

Maddhatter reached out to me a month or so prior to the event and I was on board with the idea. Initially I didn’t even understand what kind of event it was because I’ve never attended a vision board party.

I simply prepared a motivational speech and it all tied in to what we were doing.

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“Decide what you want. Make a plan & work on it every single day.”

 

Maddhatter put a lot of effort into this very successful event. From the picture backdrop to the cake she served for refreshments, everything matched the same theme.

“Plant seeds that will bloom into beautiful flowers”.

Our vision boards were the seeds and once we accomplish these dreams on our vision board, then they will be flowers.

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(she also had wings, finger sandwiches, chips, and pasta salad. Yum!)

 

This event is definitely going in the books for one of the most positive events I’ve ever attended.   I want to thank Maddhatter again for extending the invitation for the collab and also for putting together for this event.

I look forward to doing more work with her in the near future. Stay tuned, we might have another event like this sooner than you think. =)

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Some of us showcasing our vision-boards.

 

 

 

Life updates❤️

Hey teacupsssss. It’s been a while since my last post. But I’m always preaching about loving yourself & taking some self care time, so I figured it was time I took my own advice.

Exactly a month ago today, I started two of the biggest journeys of my life.

I decided to lock my hair(& I’m loving it) & I also made the decision to be a lacto-ovo vegetarian 🌱

I always get asked, what made me lock my hair & what made me change my diet.

The answer for my hair is simple.

I’m over it!

I’ve been natural about 8 years & one day I woke up & wanted to cut it all off. I encouraged all of my close relatives to go natural. I knew one thing, I wasn’t going back to relaxers. So I went ahead & locked it up.

I’ve embraced my hair & I’m so excited to go through this journey. Here’s some pic of them so far.

This was the first day I got it done

As for the lacto-ovo vegetarian 🌱 , that was my daughter’s decision.

Vanessa came home one day talking about how she no longer wanted to eat meats & about how she had seen all the documentaries about slaughterhouses.

Being the supportive parent I am, I joined my daughter on this journey.( even though she jumped ship the next week😑. I blame it on Green Acres)

Although my daughter didn’t stick to it, I continued & I’ve been enjoying the benefits of having a meatless diet.

I’ve been sleeping better, I have more energy, I feel more alert, & because it’s a high fiber diet, I haven’t been having lactose intolerant issues.

I’m have made the decision to convert completely. So I want to make it more of a lifestyle.

It haven’t been hard finding things to keep me full. I even eat fast food. You just have to know what to eat!

Garden Salad from Burger King😍

Mashed Potatoes, Black Beans, & Corn 🌽

Bean & Cheese burrito 🌯 & corn 🌽

Black Bean Burger & Fries from Babalu in Lakeview

Hibachi vegetables & rice from Stix

Black bean & Tofu bowl from Chipotle

Sooo that’s what I’ve been up to. I hope you all have been great.

May is Mental Health awareness month. I have lots of updates for you guys this month. Stayed tuned.🤗

“You stop attracting certain people when you heal the part of you that once needed them.”

We’ve all heard, “what goes around comes around” and “what you put out you get back”. These phrases are very true. Especially when it comes to ENERGY!

Another good one is “misery loves company”. So cliche, I know. But do you know why misery loves company?

You attract people that are vibrating on the same frequency with you. So if you’re vibrating low, it more likely to attract people that are vibrating low as well.

You stop attracting certain people when you heal the part of you that once needed them.

That’s why healing is so essential.

When you heal your own insecurities and pain, you stop attracting people who still have those insecurities and pain.

That just how the universe works. 

It doesn’t always give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need. Some of these people will be there to help you, hurt you, leave you, and love you.

But you have to understand that this is all in the plan to make you the person you are meant to be.

Healing is a journey and it requires dedication. It is very much necessary.

Until you heal, you’re going to keep cycling the same relationships with people. You have to take the lesson and make change.

Otherwise, you will continue to find similar people over and over.

Sooo Teacups, my assignment for you all this week is to check your relationships. Why do you keep the company that you keep? Some of these relationships aren’t real soul connections.

Some of them are just attachments you’ve created to fill in a void in your soul. That void could be low self esteem, fear, lust, loneliness, or anything along that spectrum.

Vibrate higher Teacups. We’re going to love ourselves first from here on out. We’re going to elevate. I claim it for you all and myself as well.

Peace and Love.

 

 

 

 

 

Date Nights With You❤️🤞🏾

Looking for a cool date idea? Try this.

I know you’ve heard of sip & strokes right.

Well we went over to our local craft store & pick up some painting supplies. I attempted to draw an anchor(yes that’s what it is🙄) lol. We painted the picture together. It was fun & we bought our own liquor. Fun, cool, chill night☺️

The “Erin Nicole Paige”

Hey Teacupssss,

So you know this column is dedicated to promoting businesses and brands of Birmingham right?

Well I decided to switch it up a little.

This feature will be dedicated to a model who is from Birmingham, AL.

She goes by the name Erin Nicole Paige.

I was very interested in interviewing her because I believe, she fits in this category as well. She is a brand.

I was very curious to know why she wanted to model.

She shared with me that modeling was never her dream.

The dream has always been my mother’s or my aunt. I’ve quit this profession on several occasions because it’s more girly and everyone know I’m on the tomboy side.”

I cannot tell that this wasn’t her dream because she has been slaying these photo shoots.

Erin Nicole Paige has set many goals for her modeling career. Her goals are to be published by a big time magazine.

She had been published in local magazines in Atlanta and Carolina but she wants to make a billboard. She is not fond of the runway because of her height.

After the 3rd time trying, she fell in love with modeling.

Being a model comes with an image. So my question to Erin Nicole Paige was, “is it hard maintaining an image as a model?”

“It’s really not hard to maintain your image. I would say it’s harder and building your image and making people want to represent you versus just taking pictures and saying hey look at me I’m a model. Your name/face literally is your brand so you have to protect it at all cost. ” –Erin Nicole Paige

Models face many obstacles in this industry. She expressed to me how she have been turned around before because of her height or her tattoos. Also, once you’re in this industry, you find out who really supports you and who doesn’t.

The obstacles start at day one. You have to know more about modeling than what the internet shows.”-Erin Nicole Paige

She has advice to give to aspiring models.

“Don’t go in blind like me. You need to know exactly what type of model you are or the category they fit you in so you can push and focus mainly on that work. Anything you do or book outside of that is extra. Never Quit because someone tell you that you can’t!  Just find a way to make them FEEL YOU!! Ones person “No” is someone else “Yes” so do not get discouraged. It’s not always about the money because the passion you have for what you do will show through your work. Never tell a photographer or someone in our industry you will do something and don’t show. That’s how you can get black balled before your career even take off. Always show up 20 mins early to anything and always dress to impress people will be watching!!”

Of course, I’ve dropped some pics of her work below and also her booking info.

Check her out.

IG: @BOOKLPAIGE
EMAIL: LPAIGEBOOKINGS@YAHOO.COM
FB:LaShara Paige/ERIN Paige

 

 

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Trust the Process

There is no sense in beating yourself up about things that didn’t happen.

I’m a true believer that everything works out just how the universe wants it to happen.

You have to trust the process.

A lot of times, I’ve wanted things to happen for me & I was frustrated when it didn’t.

Looking back & knowing what I know now, I wasn’t even in a place in my life where I even prepared for what I was asking for.

Believe in divine timing. Everything you need will come to you at the perfect moment.

I know some times that can be hard to believe.

Don’t question why it didn’t work.

You never know what the universe was protecting you from.

This week Teacups, lets choose to be patient. Let’s choose to trust the process.

Everything that you have visualized, intended, prayed about, and worked on is in the process of manifesting.

Remain centered at peace.

It all going to happen for you the way it should happen☺️

Essential Goddess Hair

Hey Teacuppppsss,

I know you’ve all heard that diamonds are a girls best friend, but I’m here to tell you bundles are too. Especially bundles that are of good quality.

Let me introduce you all to a local hair extension distributor by the name of Amber :). Amber is the owner of the brand Essential goddess hair. 

This is so cool that I actually got a chance to interview her because I’m actually wearing some of her hair right now. (And I love it guys)

So of course one of the first questions I ask when interviewing people is about the name of their brand and what it means to them. That just gives you a little insight on their brand.

To Amber, essential means important & it’s important that all women look like a goddess with affordable QUALITY hair.

Like many entrepreneurs she was tired of spending so much money on products that she was not satisfied with. She started this business because she loves quality hair.

She has had bad experiences with hair that looks goods but it sheds too much , closure going bald & even tangling. So she decided to test out bundles and open her own business so that she could share her findings with us. So far she has been delivering the best of the best. (Thank you Amber)

I can honestly vouch for this because I’m not good with hair at all, and this hair has been the best. The maintenance is so easy on it. I haven’t had any shedding or tangling AT ALL.

In the next 3 years Amber goal is to have customers nation wide. 💞

I hope all your dreams come true. I believe you can do it.

Make sure you all check out her brand. I’ve left all the info below and of course I dropped you all some client selfie 🙂

People can order www.essentialgoddesshair.com

Fb: Essential Goddess Hair
Instagram: essentialgoddesshair
Twitter: essentialgoddess

 

You’re not responsible for anyone’s healing but your own!

Healing is not always an easy or a pretty process but its very necessary.  I’m not totally against helping other heal (because literally that what my green tea column is for), but I want you all to know that its not your responsibility.

Before you try to help someone else, you have to first make sure you’re in a non toxic space to do so. If not you’ll only be adding more fuel to a fire that is already blazing. (Yikes)

I never see people for the bad things they’ve done, I’m always trying to figure out why they’re the way they are and why they do the things they do.

Sometimes people act the way they act or treat people a certain way because of things that have previously happened to them. But I’m here to tell you, it is not your responsibility to babysit people’s insecurities.

You should not slow down your bloom so that people can meet you at a level that they are comfortable with. You DO NOT have to dim your light for someone who is still trying to find their own.

Putting yourself in these kind of situations can really change you as a person. Don’t lose yourself in someone else chaos.

It is not your fault that they are fighting the internal battles that they are fighting.

If you’ve been in this experience or situation then you have a first hand account of how toxic this can be.

Teacups, this is where our healing comes in to place. For the people who have caused you pain, don’t wish pain on them. If they’ve hurt you, its probably because they already have pain inside.

Wish them healing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is a self care day?

Hey Teacups,

I preach about taking self care days all the time, but I’ve never stopped to check and see if you guys even knew what a self care day was.

Don’t worry, of course I’m going to explain.

In the simplest form, this is literally a day that you use to take care of yourself.

Sometimes we’re so busy going about our life and we don’t actually get a chance to stop and breathe. This is what self care days are for.

If you have to turn your phone on airplane mode, lock yourself up in the house, or just block out the world all together, by all mean do that. Its not being selfish, its taking care of yourself. Because if you don’t, who will?

Okay, now for the fun part.

I know you’re probably wondering, what kind of things can you do on this “self care” day.  Well I’ll give you a list of things to do.

  • Meditate/ Yoga (my fav)
  • Treat yourself to a massage
  • clean up around the house
  • write in a journal
  • go and catch a movie by yourself or cuddle up in the bed and watch a series on Netflix
  • Try a recipe you’ve been wanting to try.
  • Take a walk in the park
  • Do a face mask (my second fav, it leaves you feeling so refreshed)
  • Take yourself on a date.
  • Lastly, have you a cup of tea 🙂

 

Believe it or not, days like this really helps to change your mindset. Once your nourish your mind, body, and spirit, things just start to make sense.