“You stop attracting certain people when you heal the part of you that once needed them.”

We’ve all heard, “what goes around comes around” and “what you put out you get back”. These phrases are very true. Especially when it comes to ENERGY!

Another good one is “misery loves company”. So cliche, I know. But do you know why misery loves company?

You attract people that are vibrating on the same frequency with you. So if you’re vibrating low, it more likely to attract people that are vibrating low as well.

You stop attracting certain people when you heal the part of you that once needed them.

That’s why healing is so essential.

When you heal your own insecurities and pain, you stop attracting people who still have those insecurities and pain.

That just how the universe works. 

It doesn’t always give you the people you want. It gives you the people you need. Some of these people will be there to help you, hurt you, leave you, and love you.

But you have to understand that this is all in the plan to make you the person you are meant to be.

Healing is a journey and it requires dedication. It is very much necessary.

Until you heal, you’re going to keep cycling the same relationships with people. You have to take the lesson and make change.

Otherwise, you will continue to find similar people over and over.

Sooo Teacups, my assignment for you all this week is to check your relationships. Why do you keep the company that you keep? Some of these relationships aren’t real soul connections.

Some of them are just attachments you’ve created to fill in a void in your soul. That void could be low self esteem, fear, lust, loneliness, or anything along that spectrum.

Vibrate higher Teacups. We’re going to love ourselves first from here on out. We’re going to elevate. I claim it for you all and myself as well.

Peace and Love.

 

 

 

 

 

Trust the Process

There is no sense in beating yourself up about things that didn’t happen.

I’m a true believer that everything works out just how the universe wants it to happen.

You have to trust the process.

A lot of times, I’ve wanted things to happen for me & I was frustrated when it didn’t.

Looking back & knowing what I know now, I wasn’t even in a place in my life where I even prepared for what I was asking for.

Believe in divine timing. Everything you need will come to you at the perfect moment.

I know some times that can be hard to believe.

Don’t question why it didn’t work.

You never know what the universe was protecting you from.

This week Teacups, lets choose to be patient. Let’s choose to trust the process.

Everything that you have visualized, intended, prayed about, and worked on is in the process of manifesting.

Remain centered at peace.

It all going to happen for you the way it should happen☺️

You’re not responsible for anyone’s healing but your own!

Healing is not always an easy or a pretty process but its very necessary.  I’m not totally against helping other heal (because literally that what my green tea column is for), but I want you all to know that its not your responsibility.

Before you try to help someone else, you have to first make sure you’re in a non toxic space to do so. If not you’ll only be adding more fuel to a fire that is already blazing. (Yikes)

I never see people for the bad things they’ve done, I’m always trying to figure out why they’re the way they are and why they do the things they do.

Sometimes people act the way they act or treat people a certain way because of things that have previously happened to them. But I’m here to tell you, it is not your responsibility to babysit people’s insecurities.

You should not slow down your bloom so that people can meet you at a level that they are comfortable with. You DO NOT have to dim your light for someone who is still trying to find their own.

Putting yourself in these kind of situations can really change you as a person. Don’t lose yourself in someone else chaos.

It is not your fault that they are fighting the internal battles that they are fighting.

If you’ve been in this experience or situation then you have a first hand account of how toxic this can be.

Teacups, this is where our healing comes in to place. For the people who have caused you pain, don’t wish pain on them. If they’ve hurt you, its probably because they already have pain inside.

Wish them healing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is a self care day?

Hey Teacups,

I preach about taking self care days all the time, but I’ve never stopped to check and see if you guys even knew what a self care day was.

Don’t worry, of course I’m going to explain.

In the simplest form, this is literally a day that you use to take care of yourself.

Sometimes we’re so busy going about our life and we don’t actually get a chance to stop and breathe. This is what self care days are for.

If you have to turn your phone on airplane mode, lock yourself up in the house, or just block out the world all together, by all mean do that. Its not being selfish, its taking care of yourself. Because if you don’t, who will?

Okay, now for the fun part.

I know you’re probably wondering, what kind of things can you do on this “self care” day.  Well I’ll give you a list of things to do.

  • Meditate/ Yoga (my fav)
  • Treat yourself to a massage
  • clean up around the house
  • write in a journal
  • go and catch a movie by yourself or cuddle up in the bed and watch a series on Netflix
  • Try a recipe you’ve been wanting to try.
  • Take a walk in the park
  • Do a face mask (my second fav, it leaves you feeling so refreshed)
  • Take yourself on a date.
  • Lastly, have you a cup of tea 🙂

 

Believe it or not, days like this really helps to change your mindset. Once your nourish your mind, body, and spirit, things just start to make sense.

 

 

 

Your Words Have Powers!

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Hello Teacups,

I know it’s been a minute since our last update, I’ve been working on finding a balance in my life.

In doing so, I’ve set a couple of goals for myself, that I want to accomplish before the year is out.

Some of the goals I set, at the time seemed unattainable. Then I had to check myself. & it lead me right to out topic for this blog update!

We have to start speaking life into ourselves & our situations!

Everything in the universe is made up of energy. Even your words.

If you knew how powerful your words were you be more careful how you use them.

The Law of Vibration, states that we attract what we are sending out.

Our thoughts are cosmic waves of energy that penetrate all time and space.

Knowing this, you have to use it to your advantage.

You can block your own blessings, just by the way your thinking. Thinking negatively fuels negative energy.

You’re setting yourself up for failure before you even get started.

For example, instead of saying what you can’t do, speak on what you “can” do & what you will do.(let’s stop beating ourselves up)

You know I can’t leave without giving you all an assignment.

For the remainder of this week, I challenge you to change your thinking. What is it that you really want? Speak it into existence & focus your thoughts on obtaining it.

Do not leave any room for doubt. You don’t want to send those kind of vibrations out.

Select, Project, Expect, Collect👏🏾

Have a prosperous week teacups ☕

Happiness is a choice!

Happiness is a choice!!

Yep, I said it. Happiness is a choice, & it’s YOUR choice!

No one is responsible for your happiness but yourself.

Before we get into this, do you even know what makes you happy?

I’m not talking about those temporary happy feelings(getting food after being hungry all day, seeing something that makes laugh, or anything that only suffice for a moment)

I’m referring to the things that speak to your soul.

Knowing what these things are is the key to being & staying happy.

Many people feel as if happiness is a result of something when in reality, it’s in your power all along.

Nothing or no one will make you happy until you decide to be happy.

“Happiness will not come to you, it can only come from you”

-Ralph Marston

Your state of mind plays a big role in your perception of happiness. Happiness isn’t measured by how much good & how much bad is happening to you. It’s based on the way YOU view things.

Your have to change your mindset.

The first time something bad happens, we can’t go into a chaotic rage about how nothing ever works out for us. We can’t let little( and yes I used this to down play these situations) experiences change our overall state of being.

Changing your mindset is minor step but it plays a major role.

If you’re able to fight off negative energy, you’ll be more likely to stay in a happy place.

Accentuate the positive!!!

Let’s not focus so much on what’s going wrong in your life. Focus on what’s going right.

Ready for your assignment this week teacups? This week, when something doesn’t go your way, I challenge you to change your mindset.

Take a couple deep breaths.

Try to focus on the positive.

Things could be worse.

You’re still alive right? Can you heal from this?

I know the answers to both of these questions are yes. & guess what teacups, you’re a step closer to choosing happiness☺

Forgiveness!

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2018 is coming to an end & soon 2019 will be here.

As we finish off the last moments of 2018, we’re all looking forward to new beginnings, new opportunities, or just a better year overall.

Most people like to come up with things they want to leave behind in the current year.

This year, how about we leave that hurt in 2018.

Which bring me to the topic: Forgiveness.

Easier said then done, but very necessary for your healing.

The thing about forgiving people is that it’s more about you, then it is about whoever you’re forgiving.

When I say forgive, I’m definitely not saying forget. You don’t even have to let that person back in your space ever again.

But when you forgive, you regain your power back.

When someone can shift your energy negatively , just by the mention of their name or their presence, they have some power over you.

Take your power back!

Don’t get it confused, just because you’re forgiving them doesn’t mean that their actions were acceptable. It also does not mean that you take responsibility for it. Be very vocal in letting them know that it wasn’t okay at all, but you have to move on from it.

You are literally allowing yourself to move forward & not letting the past have the opportunity to control your current state of being.

How does forgiving others help us detox?

Forgiving an experience or a person shifts our vibrations. When you forgive, you’re literally cutting ties from that negative energy you have associated with that person or experience. You’re releasing them & also freeing yourself.

Leave that baggage in 2018!!!

I hope your New Years is full of breakthroughs, miracles, lots of love, & good health❤

Auset

 

Stop playing victim to situations you’ve created…

 

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So I wasn’t actually planning on blogging under green tea today, but then I came across this post & I figured someone could use this detox today.

So most of you all know, I’m big on energy and vibrations, but another thing that is really important to me is accountability.

It’s so easy to blame others for your wrongs, but I’m here to tell you, that my friend is TOXIC!

Stop blaming other people or things, its no one else fault.

Accept the truth about you!

The Law of Cause and Effect states that whatever you send into the universe comes back. Action – re-action are equal and opposite.

Every cause has its effect; every effect, its cause.

In other words, you can’t be out here giving out bad energy & not expect it to come back on you.

The next time you’re in a situation & you want to blame someone, stop & breathe.

For one moment, focus in on yourself.

Stop blaming, Stop complaining.

Ask yourself…

“Why am I going through this?”

“What actions did I take to lead me here?”

Accept the fact that you are in control of your life & the decisions that you make have both consequences & rewards.

Once you realize this, you won’t be a victim anymore.

Blaming others only give up the power for you you to change.

Acknowledge.

Own it.

Find healthy non toxic solutions.

Let’s be accountable loves❤✨

“People can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves”.

So me & my friend were having a conversation & this topic comes up.

“People can only meet you as deeply as they have met themselves”.

Such a profound statement & I strongly believe this.

If you don’t know yourself, how can you let anyone get to know you. If you want to form healthy relationships with people you have to get intimate with yourself first.

Intimate knowledge of self amplifies your vibrations.

When you know who & what you are, you’ll be able to know what you’re willing to take & what bs you just won’t deal with.

It’s important that you recognize your insecurities & deal with them.

Every now & then do a self check.

Literally check in on yourself.

Why am I the way I am?

What makes me happiest?

What do I need to heal?

Can you answer all of those questions honestly with yourself?

Go from there. It’s so important to deal with your own baggage before entering someone else’s space.

Energy is real.

Until it becomes routine, put “self-care” in your daily planner so you know it has to be done. You deserve a better you.